27 things that women of any age should remember

1.) Take what you want without hurting others.

2.) Be kind, but not always nice.

3.) You are not obligated to talk to strangers, but if they seem sweet, why not?

4.) Always tell your mom you love her too after she says it on the phone, even if you’re grumpy and mumbly.

5.) Try to be patient even though you are incredibly impatient.

6.) Don’t let the looming future control your peace of mind.

7.) Say no when you want to say no. It’s your right.

8.) Be ashamed of the silly things you’ve done in the past, but let yourself off the hook.

9.) It’s okay to have regrets. “No regrets”? No chance. Reflect on your regrets. Turn them into bad poetry.

10.) If it’s written on a fridge magnet, it’s probably BS.

11.) Your grandmother might disagree with you on a hundred fundamentals but she’s still got wisdom coming out of her ears. Take it in.

12.) Your sisters and brother aren’t perfect, and neither are you. It’s okay to love them as much as you can without worrying what you get in return.

13.) Be kinder to your dad. He doesn’t know how to say it but he wants the very best for you. Help him find those words.

14.) Keep a clean and tidy house. It will make you feel better to treat yourself better.

15.) Do something creative every day. You know your potential and you are scared of it. Push past that fear. Surround yourself with inspiration. Accept that you’ll most likely have to make something bad before you can make something good.

16.) Exercise, eat healthy. Your body and mind are all you have. Treat them as such. Try swimming every day, like Little Edie.

17.) Let jealousy flow over you. It’s a useless, poisonous emotion. Push it away as fast as you can.

18.) Stay stylish as you grow old. Revel in the fun things and never let them pass.

19.) Make a home that fills you with warmth.

20.) Don’t lose your sense of humour or your edge. Keep being just a little bit of an asshole.

21.) Be tough.

22.) It’s okay to feel lonely.

23.) It’s okay to wonder why you may never have that core group of inseparable friends that you see on TV.

24.) You make some shitty mistakes, but you’re not a bad person.

25.) Try to be nice to nice people. Phoney chit chat is exhausting but can lead to something really sincere.

26.) Your hero has a hero of their own. We’re all the same. Except old ladies with eyebrow tattoos. They’re a different breed.

27.) Even Kate Middleton poops.

Credit to:  http://hellogiggles.com/27-things-that-everyone-should-remember  

How to be vulnerable in a negative world

What I really mean is, how do you ask for help in a negative world?

Why is asking for help so scary?  Is it the judgment for needing help?  Is it appearing weak in the others eyes?  Or is it the stubbornness that likes to say, “I can do it all by myself!”?

I remember as a kid always thinking I could do things by myself and never wanting to ask for help, it usually got me in trouble.  I’d either spill something or drop something or have to lie about something just to hide the fact that I was too prideful to ask for help.  As I’ve grown older, the pride is still there however, It’s more of a thought as, I can figure this out on my own, I know me better than anyone type of thing.

But what happens when, you really need help?  Maybe you need accountability, support or just someone to listen to you, how does that play out in your prideful mind then?  In my case it reincarnates it self into stress.  The thoughts of asking for help don’t even cross my mind and I’m just stuck with more stress of doing it on my own.  This isn’t exactly the most healthy way to go about things however, it is how most of us deal with situations like this.

So how can we fix it?  How can we make asking for help, “okay”?  I can definitely think of some times when I asked for help and was met with negativity, so what can we do to continue to ask even when we are met with hostile or negative responses?

This is when my 2nd language pops up, sarcasm.  When I feel hurt or threatened sarcasm comes to save the day, and it really just pushes the negativity back with more force and more negativity.  This isn’t really a productive plan either.

So what’s the answer?  I think it’s a life long lesson, one where we will get lots of practice to react right, but one where we will probably fail many times at as well.

Here’s to practice!

Goals

What are your goals?

Where would you like to see yourself in 6 months?

A year?

5 years?

10 years?

Plans don’t always work out but life without goals is depressing.  The minute we stop setting goals is the same minute we stop really living.

Have you ever made a bucket list?

If you haven’t, why not?

It may seem silly but its so satisfying when you get to cross things off.  Try it!

Have a great weekend y’all!  And live!!

Carpe Diem “Seize the Day”

#44  Live now, procrastinate later.

 

How many tomorrows will we get before our tomorrows are all gone?  You know that voice in your head constantly justifying why you don’t have to work out today or why you can eat whatever you want, why is it so easy to listen to?  Is it a voice of an angelic figure whispering in our ear?  Or does it sound like Howard’s mom from the big bang theory?  Either way, we give in, listen and become inactive.

I read a quote today, whether you tell yourself that you can or you can’t, you’re right!

Our minds are what keep us from succeeding, if we tell ourselves we can’t or not today then nothing will ever get done.  

How can we become proactive, and successful?  We tell ourselves that we already are.

What are you telling yourself daily?  What things do you need to be telling yourself in order to achieve your dreams?

Hop to, Chop Chop!

Credit to: How to be Happy, Dammit. By Karen Salmansohn

Just because you know all the right answers doesn’t mean you’re doing anything about it.

#43  There’s a difference between knowing and doing.

Great ideas aren’t worth anything unless there are actions behind them.  You must put in the effort and discipline and truly live out those ideas with action.  In essence, you must seize the day, the night or whatever else needs seized.

What you seize is what you get.

So what are you seizing?  What is it that you want out of life–your life?

Don’t be scared of what your life purpose is and don’t be held back by trying to be good enough to fulfill it.

Seize the day.

Credit to: How to be Happy, Dammit. By Karen Salmansohn

The Daily Love

Where in your life can you love your imperfections, your darkness and your emotions? Can you do it in a way that will free you and without judging yourself? Can you just accept that you are you and that The Uni-verse made you this way because It Loves you and you have lessons you are meant to learn in this lifetime with your current circumstances? Can we stop complaining about our lives and start embracing them with gratitude as being what we need right now in order to grow? Can we have the courage to let our humanness show and have faith that the spiritual side will take care of itself?

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Replenish Thy Self

#40  You need balance, baby.  It’s called the weekend–and not the “weakened.”

I know that we can get really caught up in hobbies, careers, parenting, social lives, living in our television/movies or whatever else we can get ourselves into but we MUST find a balance.

I know that most of the time when we think of balance in “adulthood” we think, “don’t work too much, have some time for play too” but I want to talk about not only having play time but productive play time.

Have you ever heard the quote, “too much of a good thing isn’t good”?  It’s true, you can guilty pleasure yourself right into a depression.  Just because we enjoy doing something doesn’t always mean that its for our benefit.

As much fun as vegging out on the couch is it doesn’t really leave us feeling…good. I know that when my weekends consist of tv/movies and food and napping, I feel so tired and drained come Monday.  I believe in moderation couch potatoing can have its benefits but when does it become harmful?

We only get so many days on this earth and no one knows how many.  If you live to be 80 you have 29,200 days (give or take leap year etc).  Looking at that number that doesn’t seem like a lot.  What are you doing with your time?  What am I doing with mine?  What are we doing as a whole?

Which leads me to a bigger question, how do we make each day count?

Martin Luther King Jr said this, “Life’s most persistent and urgent question is, ‘What are you doing for others?” 

What are you doing for others?

29,200 i’ve already spent 9,490 of mine, what will I do with my remaining 19,710?

Credit to: How to be happy, dammit. By Karen Salmansohn Elaborated on by me.

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